{"id":6440,"date":"2022-12-20T10:01:20","date_gmt":"2022-12-20T10:01:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/heloa.app\/blog\/non-classe\/les-4-piliers-relation-de-couple"},"modified":"2024-09-10T06:35:44","modified_gmt":"2024-09-10T04:35:44","slug":"les-4-piliers-relation-de-couple","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heloa.app\/fr\/blog\/parents\/couple\/les-4-piliers-relation-de-couple","title":{"rendered":"Les 4 piliers d&rsquo;une relation de couple"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u00ab\u00a0Comment raviver la flamme dans son couple ?\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0Couple : comment le faire durer ?\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a05 astuces pour pimenter votre relation\u00a0\u00bb&#8230; On ne compte plus le nombre de titres de magazines nous d\u00e9livrant la recette d\u2019un couple parfait. Tout comme les \u00e9pices viennent ajouter de la saveur \u00e0 un plat, il semblerait que ceux-ci d\u00e9tiennent la solution qui va venir pimenter votre couple. Mais ne prend-on pas le probl\u00e8me \u00e0 l&rsquo;envers ? Et si, au lieu de nous int\u00e9resser aux \u00e9pices pour venir pimenter notre relation, nous nous int\u00e9ressions aux ingr\u00e9dients de base ?<\/p><h2 id=\"la-base-dun-couple-stable\">La base d&rsquo;un couple stable<\/h2><p>Lorsque nous souhaitons \u00ab raviver la flamme \u00bb, nous avons parfois tendance \u00e0 agr\u00e9menter notre relation d&rsquo;\u00e9l\u00e9ments ext\u00e9rieurs (lingerie, h\u00f4tels hors de prix&#8230;) au lieu de nous concentrer sur ce qu&rsquo;elle est fondamentalement. Loin des clich\u00e9s, l&rsquo;essentiel est <strong>la simplicit\u00e9 et l&rsquo;\u00e9coute<\/strong> ! C&rsquo;est bien plus efficace \u2014 et bien moins cher. <\/p><p>En quelques mots : apprenons \u00e0 nous contenter de ce qu&rsquo;est notre relation, au lieu de fantasmer sur ce qu\u2019elle pourrait \u00eatre. Aujourd\u2019hui, une relation de couple stable est bas\u00e9e sur 4 lettres : P.A.C.S. Il ne s\u2019agit pas de l&rsquo;acronyme de ce fameux contrat, mais de :<\/p><ul><li>Partage<\/li><li>Admiration<\/li><li>Communication \/ Confiance<\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/heloa.app\/fr\/blog\/parents\/sexualite\/etre-parents-et-rester-amants\">Sexualit\u00e9<\/a><\/li><\/ul><h2 id=\"les-piliers-du-couple\">Les piliers du couple<\/h2><p><strong>Le partage <\/strong>fait r\u00e9f\u00e9rence aux moments pass\u00e9s ensemble, aux souvenirs, aux activit\u00e9s, aux projets. <\/p><p><strong>L\u2019admiration<\/strong>, c\u2019est un sentiment de joie, d&rsquo;\u00e9panouissement et de fiert\u00e9 que l\u2019on va ressentir \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9gard de son ou sa partenaire pour ses actions, ses qualit\u00e9s morales, son attitude, sa personnalit\u00e9.<\/p><p>L\u2019admiration \u00ab\u00a0type \u00bb n\u2019existe pas, puisque cela va venir toucher quelque chose en nous qui nous \u00e9meut \u2014 et l\u2019\u00e9motion est propre \u00e0 chaque individu. <\/p><p><strong>La communication<\/strong> fait appel ici \u00e0 la fa\u00e7on, tant sur le fond que sur la forme, dont sont \u00e9chang\u00e9es les informations entre les deux partenaires. La communication va permettre de cr\u00e9er un espace o\u00f9 les personnes peuvent s&rsquo;exprimer en toute s\u00e9curit\u00e9, o\u00f9 elles sentent que leur parole est \u00e9cout\u00e9e et respect\u00e9e, en d\u00e9pit d\u2019\u00e9ventuelles divergences d\u2019opinion. <\/p><p><strong>La confiance <\/strong>est le principal moteur du couple et de toute relation sociale. Elle permet \u00e0 l\u2019autre de se sentir en s\u00e9curit\u00e9. Elle ne se d\u00e9cide pas et d\u00e9pend de ressentis qui ne se discutent pas. On ne peut avoir confiance que si nous sommes en confiance. Cela rel\u00e8ve plus de l\u2019\u00eatre que de l\u2019avoir. <\/p><p><strong>La sexualit\u00e9<\/strong>, ici, ne fait pas r\u00e9f\u00e9rence \u00e0 un quelconque st\u00e9r\u00e9otype en termes de pratique, puisque la normalit\u00e9 en sexologie n\u2019existe pas. Ce qui compte, c\u2019est que votre partenaire et vous soyez en accord sur votre sexualit\u00e9 (ou asexualit\u00e9) et que le plaisir et le respect en soient les ma\u00eetres-mots. \u00a0<\/p><p>Pour revenir sur les 4 piliers du couple, vous pouvez vous imaginer le couple comme un tabouret : tant que les 4 pieds sont pr\u00e9sents, tout va bien. Si l&rsquo;on en retire un, on arrive \u00e0 garder une certaine stabilit\u00e9, mais il faut ruser pour maintenir l\u2019\u00e9quilibre. Si l&rsquo;on en retire deux, on tombe. <\/p><p>Margaux Terrou, sexologue clinicienne<br><br><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Aujourd\u2019hui, une relation de couple stable est bas\u00e9e sur 4 piliers : partage, admiration, communication \/ confiance, sexualit\u00e9. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":5764,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"_kad_post_classname":"","rank_math_title":"Les 4 piliers d'une relation de couple | Partage, admiration, communication, confiance, sexualit\u00e9","rank_math_description":"D\u00e9couvrez les 4 piliers essentiels d'une relation de couple stable : partage, admiration, communication\/confiance et sexualit\u00e9.","rank_math_focus_keyword":"piliers de couple","rank_math_primary_category":757,"ilj_linkdefinition":["piliers de couple"],"footnotes":""},"categories":[757,651],"tags":[434,41,600,15,435],"class_list":["post-6440","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-couple-parents","category-parents","tag-oneself_and_couple","tag-malo-pour-les-parents","tag-margaux-terrou","tag-premium","tag-soi-meme-et-le-couple"],"acf":{"prestation_table":"","technical_table":"","nom_professionnel":"","numero_telephone":"","convention_cas":"","contrat_acces_aux_soins":"","sesam_vitale":"","coordonnees":"","adresse":"","profession":"","numero_rpps":"","profession_description":"","commune":"","departement":"","prenom":"","origine":"","date_fete":"","signification_etymologie":"","histoire_origine_prenom":"","personne_celebre":"","age_moyen":"","prenoms_derives":"","prenoms_composes":"","naissances_2024":"","genre":"","prenoms_taxonomy":"","region_stats":"","evolution_naissances":""},"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":757,"label":"Couple"},{"value":651,"label":"Parents"}],"post_tag":[{"value":434,"label":"#oneself_and_couple"},{"value":41,"label":"malo pour les parents"},{"value":600,"label":"Margaux Terrou"},{"value":15,"label":"premium"},{"value":435,"label":"soi-m\u00eame et le couple"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/heloa.app\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/photo-1648198835736-cb9d97420a33-1-819x1024.jpg",819,1024,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Heloa","author_link":"https:\/\/heloa.app\/fr\/author\/expert-heloa"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":757,"name":"Couple","slug":"couple-parents","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":757,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":651,"count":19,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":757,"category_count":19,"category_description":"","cat_name":"Couple","category_nicename":"couple-parents","category_parent":651},{"term_id":651,"name":"Parents","slug":"parents","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":651,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Apr\u00e8s l'arriv\u00e9e d\u2019un enfant, il est normal qu'en tant que parent vous vous sentiez d\u00e9pass\u00e9 : de nouvelles responsabilit\u00e9s, un manque de sommeil, les \u00e9motions qui font les montagnes russes. 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